Beingness is the act or state of being. Being is more than just existing. Being is who we are at the very core of life, the way we were created, established and called to live- who we were before being influenced by family history, economics, personality conflicts, consequences of choices made (good or bad), or pressures we have allowed others to place on us.
Most people have the understanding that life is about what we have done, what we are going to do and how are we going to do it. If you go to church you will hear pastors from behind the pulpit talk about what you must do or what you should not do. When you go to the bookstore and you will find a section called “self-help”, there you will find books that show you, tell you what to do from aviation to zoology.
We as humans tend to live our lives by the concept of doing. If we get in trouble some of the first words out of our mouths are, “What do you want me to do?” If you were in fight with your spouse you may have said the words, “I cannot do anything to please you.” At the office we work on the concept of what we need to do next in order to get the job opportunity, or promotion. We live the construct of life centered on doing, and then wonder why we are not happy at times.
We are “human beings” not “human doings.” As we learn to live out of our beingness we will find life to be so much more fun and fulfilling. A part of coaching is simply to help you get in touch with that being side of life so the things that you do have true purpose, fulfillment and a deeper meaning. As it is “doing” is a part of how we move forward in life. The question I would ask of each of us is, are the things I am doing coming out of truly who I am or am I simply doing things in life without a purpose and meaning behind them.
We are our own worst enemies when it comes time to move forward because even though we want to be different we tend to get stuck or bogged down in life. When that happens we can simply move forward and do something about it or we can ask questions that would help us understand the reason and the rational for what we want. I guarantee you when you live a life out of your beingness the last thing you are going to be saying, “What am I going to do next?”- You simply just know.
Give yourself a chance to BE more, give us call and take a step closer to the importance of accomplishing the things that you want to in life.